Contemporary research findings have consistently shown that depressed mood and anxiety can be mitigated with improved satisfaction in significant relationships. As a product of Adelphi’s Derner Institute, my therapeutic style is largely based on relational psychodynamic theory which focuses on just that. I stay active in the present moment and use exploratory questions to facilitate an attitude of curiosity. I help people recognize patterns that have been largely working outside of their awareness in order to alleviate symptoms and make space for significantly more satisfying interactions with others.
Through the collaborative therapeutic process of working through identified areas for change and growth, we foster trust and build resilience. I hope for people to complete therapy without fear of emotional vulnerability, an overall sense of self-acceptance, and the ability to broaden and shift perspective when necessary.
The most meaningful change occurs when people finally recognize how much influence they have on those around them, and ultimately how much they matter!
I emphasize the therapeutic relationship as a tool for transformation of problematic habits into adaptive and fulfilling ones. The power of being truly heard and understood without judgment or consequence is remarkable; it opens the space to play with new ideas and be creative and genuine.
My work is guided by the theory that openness and trust between therapist and patient paves the way for access to difficult feelings. Often the more perturbing a particular feeling is to a person, the harder they work to avoid it, while inadvertently intensifying its’ role in their current problems.
In therapy, I strive to help people learn how to explore and tolerate some of their most difficult feelings (which also builds empathic skills). The aim is to expand emotional awareness and positive regard, thereby reducing anxiety and depression and building deeper interpersonal connections.
Depending on how we both feel insight-oriented therapy is going, sometimes it feels right to introduce CBT-informed interventions. Often, concrete exercises in the session and in-between session tasks will alleviate acute anxiety using both thought re-framing and behavioural modification. Giving tools to help regulate anxiety in between sessions sometimes helps make space for the more insight-oriented work.
Every long-term relationship or marriage has bumps along the road. However, with some partnerships, the sense of loss, or anger or betrayal becomes the defining narrative of their relationship. My approach is geared towards expanding each partners’ perception of their role in the relationships’ status while building empathy for their partner’s experience.
I work with couples to help them recognize and properly express the emotions that had been undermining their communication. My goal is to build empathy, eliminate binary thinking and help couples to redefine their story. Similar to how I conduct individual therapy, I work to create a safe space for each member of the couple to be vulnerable with one another. By helping both individual partners and the couple as a unit recognize and understand significant emotional roadblocks, they are then able to resolve conflict more effectively and eliminate blame and shame from the equation.
I aim to help couples’ set an overall tone of equal partnership, self-awareness and willingness for positive change.
Interpersonal relationships are integral to meaning and fulfillment in our lives, but they can also be the cause of distress when problems with communication, interpretation and expectations arise. How successfully a person builds connections with families, friends, romantic partners, work colleagues and others is closely related to his or her happiness and ability to function well in different social settings.
A depressive disorder is not the same as a passing blue mood. It is not a sign of personal weakness or a condition that can be willed or wished away. People with a depressive illness cannot merely "pull themselves together" and get better. Without treatment, symptoms can last for weeks, months, or years. Depression is a common but serious illness, and most people who experience it need treatment to get better. Appropriate treatment, however, can help most people who suffer from depression.
The future can be unpredictable, so it’s normal to worry about unexpected problems and whether you’re prepared to manage them. You might think about your day-to-day or long-term responsibilities and wonder, “What do I need to know?” “How should I get ready?” or “What will happen if I don’t plan ahead?”
If so, it means you’re mentally gearing up for situations that matter to you. And that’s great if you respond by actively removing potential obstacles to success.
But when worrying escalates, intense anxiety can develop. Anxiety is characterized by excessive and unrealistic concerns about the future, emotional and physical tension, and patterns of avoidance–avoiding people, responsibilities, or harmless situations.
If anxiety makes it too difficult to function in your relationships or keep up with your obligations at home, work, or school, it’s important to develop an anxiety reduction plan.